It is only confrontational to those who are already biased. 

Again, you're opening with a statement that will put peoples backs up before they've even heard your argument. If you want to make an accusation of bias you need to build up to it and back it up, otherwise nobody will listen.

  seeing my statement as resentment but not the others is itself 
  telling and, if I dare say, sounds of tone policing.

No. Tone policing means to attempt to discount an argument because of the tone used to deliver it. At no point have I disagreed with the content of your comments, or attempted to devalue your opinion. In contrast, I'm trying to understand your argument and help you structure it more clearly.

  And this sounds like rationalization of why an opinion should be dismissed.

That was my point, it's exactly the rationalisation a good proportion of your audience will make when you structure arguments in the way you have so far.

Confirmation bias means you start with a very slim chance of changing anyone's mind on this kind of polarising topic. Using poorly structured arguments reduces your chances to zero.

  Or my audience would be the group already aware of the statistics.

Sure, if you like, but you also claim your conclusions are so obvious that anyone aware of those studies doesn't need an explanation. If your arguments are completely obvious to your target audience, why bother commenting at all?

  Evidence and logical arguments are second to emotional appeal.

If the emotion you trigger is anger you'll get nowhere at all, or worse.

  Second, my original point of the post was not to actually say which group had it worse.

Okay, that's not how it came across at all. You finished with "it is clear which group is actually better off."

  ... there is not an agreement as to one group having it worse.

There isn't agreement on whether Elvis is dead either. In order to make the existence of disagreement a credible argument you need to also demonstrate reasonableness.

A good tip there is to align yourself with moderates rather than partisans. Claiming that men have it harder than women doesn't help you there; the moderate perspective is to empathise with the problems faced by both sides rather than to compete about which has it worse. I know you've said that's not the main point you wanted to make, but you did make that point.