Having unrealistic, superficial, mythical "check boxes" for a potential partner (male or female) in the western world is so out of whack. Money, fame, looks can only take you so far. Why couldn't people just be honest i.e. be themselves and try to make a meaningful connection to a person? Sure, no one wants to see a "loser" (whatever that definition might be) but get to know somebody before accepting/rejecting them and not having preconceived notions.