Treat the answer like a game instead of treating the question like a logic puzzle. Optimizing the answer framing instead of the question framing opens up a lot of possibilities. This also works in personality conflicts affecting communication (like marriage).
Figure out something to say even though you are not yet very clear on the other person's communication. Common approaches: Ask for clarification, mirror what they say. Growing up autistic, I couldn't find a way to maintain/create a positive connection until I started to focus on the emotions, not the data. I then discovered that the emotion seemed to preceede the data for many people, and that if you stayed on the emotional wavelength, sometimes the data I thought I perceived would turn out to be irrelevant. A cliche is men attributing this to women wanting to share feelings, but it parallels another cliche, men wanting to share things that anger them.
