As a counterpoint also in fly over country w/ a 4 month old, I was basically given as much time as I wanted. Granted I only took a few weeks because I was jonesing to get back, but I have peers that have taken months off.
This isn't to discount your general point about lack of compassion, just to discount what seemed to be the assumption that it is always the case and/or is related to the middle of the country.
I'm sure I could. My employer doesn't mind anything within reason, there's no max vacation or anything. I sympathize w/ GP as their employer is more strict, I just wanted to add my anecdote so others reading don't assume 100% of employers are like that (granted, most likely are).
Fair enough. My point is that for people in the US (and countries with similar regulations) they seem to assume that parental leave is something that must be done directly connected to the birth of the child, and when that's up there's no going back. The story is very different here in Sweden where people can save their "parental days" for years if they so chose.
This isn't to discount your general point about lack of compassion, just to discount what seemed to be the assumption that it is always the case and/or is related to the middle of the country.